Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Meet the Misunderstood Man: Mr.Awais lovely

To be honest, dear reader, I never thought that there would come a day when I would be tempted to review the psycho-social framework of a person painted comically by society for exploits that would in psychological terms be classified as either a mild case of Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) or perhaps a plain personality disorder that had, over the years (and particularly due to childhood/early adolescent problems), led to some virulent form of dysfunctionality in the said person.

Nevertheless, it should be noted here that such a diagnosis is based purely on secondary observation of the actions undertaken by the person, and not after a proper and comprehensive analysis; that involving either extensive psychotherapy with the particular individual or diving deeper into the recesses of his subconsciousness by going through existing self-reports, as is the case with Mr.Lovely.

I don't wish to represent Mr.Lovely in a negative way here. And, yes I admit that at first I was utterly stupefied by his sentimental downpour to the global community through means of Facebook and YouTube, but after going through an interesting textual analysis done by a friend of mine with respect to his interesting personality, I have reason to believe that society has grossly misunderstood him. Mr.Lovely is not a bad guy, despite his elevated sense of social neediness and the overwhelming need to reach out to humanity in ways viewed as 'unorthodox' by most people.

Also, the other issue that I wish to address is the way society has treated him, and yes; it has treated him in a way that debases the concept of humanity completely. Sure, not liking a person for his oddities is understandable and the best way to deal with the personal problem is to avoid the said person and go on with your life by doing what you like doing on a daily basis. But, to mock and abuse the said person and try your utmost best to make him not only miserable, but also to shatter his life completely; my, my, it seems as if we are still in Medieval Europe, where unique and sick people are often tortured mercilessly, and classified as social misfits, so that they can be jeered and laughed at, until the society decided to dispose off them as a means to entertain themselves.

My friends, nobody likes being treated the way Mr.Lovely was dealt with. We live in a liberal era, where man should be allowed to do what he wants, unless or until his actions are classified as a damaging to the society in general. What Mr.Lovely was doing was not out of selfish desires, but out of his innocent desire to give courage and confidence to a nation which seemed to be struggling in a pool of lava-like despair and agony. Personally, I don't really like the stunts he pulls off, but that is no reason for me to deny what he is doing as something bad. He is, as it suffices to say, misunderstood. He thinks he is helping people here, and from a psychological point of view, the benefits that he receives outweigh the costs. Put simply, by 'thinking' that he is helping people, he manages to satisfy his own ego, which would remain troubled if he felt that he wasn't able to help anyone at all.

Look, again I must make this clear that my analysis of this interesting individual may be incorrect, and personally, I don't want him to change just because I feel that he has unresolved psychological problems. The thing is that I have no right to make these claims, because I am neither a professional, nor do I know the guy that well to make rash deductions about his strange behavior.

Yes, my message to him is that he shouldn't listen to what people say and do what he thinks is best. Maybe, he'll prove us all wrong someday. Maybe, just maybe he might show to the world the real meaning of humanity by winning the hearts of people on a global basis. It's a good thing to have extraordinary people; people who don't tend to think like the rest and manage to move beyond the social norms which otherwise define our existence in this world.

Anyways, here is the analysis my friend did on Mr.Awais Lovely. I hope that after you've gone through it, dear reader, you will perhaps keep it in mind that making fun of people just because they're strange is clearly not the humane thing to do. Also, it might help you understand the twisted immoral way society treats such people, and why it's high time we stopped doing that in order to move on towards a better future for ourselves as a whole:



Profile on Awais Lovely

It is better to die on feet than live on knees- Awais lovely

Some things can’t be explained, only felt...I was hurt, very hurt, to a great extend…I left facebook, youtube and stopped using internet. I stopped talking to people, I HATED internet. People crossed the limits. In Pakistan celebrities don’t get the respect they deserve. In Europe, celebrities do get respect.This is very wrong, we feel discouraged. I do not want anybody’s fake sympathy now. If you don’t like me, do not watch me but do not treat me this way. You don’t only let me down; you let down Pakistan’s image in front of the world.”
These heart breaking words are coming from the once YouTube sensation Awais Ayoub, known as Awais Lovely.Awais has disappeared from the world of internet since he got hacked.”Every celebrity has this kind of sadful painful story behind it, behind its personal life”, Awais concluded.
Awais was born on 16th February 1984 in Sialkot. He belongs to the Goldsmith family, Rajputs; people handling the Gold Business. He spend his childhood in Kuwait , where his father had lived for twenty eight years. His dad passed away when he was five years old, leaving behind enough a massive property, after which he shifted to Pakistan.He did his Matriculation from City Public School and his Intermediate from Malik College in Sialkot and then went to Ireland Dublin as a student to learn website designing.He worked in London as a receptionist to be able to get job experience, however, his main focus remained on his gold shop.
The motivation behind Awais’s success is a result of an embarassing moment of his life.In 2002, Awais was in London, and he got the news of Shehzad Roy’s concert. Knowing that he was a Pakistani singer, Awais and his friends decided to attend the concert to support Pakistan. They responded in such an overwhelming way that the end of his performance, even Shahzad Roy personally thanked them for their support. When the concert was over people rushed towards Shehzad Roy for a picture with him. Some Irish girls were taking a picture with him, Awais stood beside one of them so he could be a part of the picture. That girl rudely told him to get away and stop ruining her picture. Awais comments on the incident saying” I was embarassed.Very embarassed.That day I swore to myself that I will be so famous one day that people will take my autograph and like to take pictures with me.” Awais decided that he will not die as an unknown person.
Passionate Awais chose the right path for him for fame.“I’ll tell you something that since a long time ago I mean, guys and people are telling me that ‘Awais, you are really different and you seems to be a very, very romantic guy so you can do something special in the world yeah,’ so I’ve been feeling as well right? So that is why I started making videos to introduce me like I am a lovely guy you know…”. (Naqvi).Awais states his good looks to be his greatest achievement. He had been chosen as a model and has given many dance performances during his academic life a number of times. His friends really praised his dance moves motivating him to upload his video on youtube.Then a series of one after another , dance videos started uploading on Facebook. People from all over the world started sharing them and people started adding Awais on Facebook. His fan page was made which had over a million likes. The likes and comments on his posts were numerous and he got the label “Pakistan’s first youtube star”. Youtube promoted his channel, Wateen sponsored him and newspapers such as Dawn News and The News published his profile. People started blogging about him and wanted to have conversations with him.Awais being very considerate of his fans, joined Skype so he could talk to them. In 2009, his fame reached its peak. People used to call him from all over the world and the response to his status and videos was tremendous.Approximately hundred people used to add him daily and he used to get an average of twenty three notifications in three seconds.


His quotes became famous all over the internet. Some of his quotations being: “Why I am still single” ; “White is bright” ; “ Do what you love” ; “Proud to be a desi” ; “hatters gonna hate” and “It’s better to die on feet than live on knees”. He used to status his quotations on facebook which used to get an extraordinary response in form of likes and comments. People started learning them and using the quotes in their own conversations.


Awais also became style icon. His picture with a black shirt saying “Why still single” and both his hands pointing toward himself with his finger was worth a million likes. People started copying his pose. According to him, his pose meant to imply that his life is like those big palaces which look very lively from outside, but are very lonely from inside. The reason for the quote on that shirt was that Awais was really confused about his relationship with girls. Many girls were in love with him but Awais was not sure if he was in love with any of them. “I was a boyfriend for them, but they were not my girlfriends. None of them were able to fully win my heart. I couldn’t find the girl of my choice because of my location. I was living in Sialkot; the families here are very conservative. I did have many girlfriends through internet but I was not sure if they were for real”. “Why still single?” was hence a question from Awais to himself as he had everything a girl would want, many girls were after him but he was still single. He believes he is the reason for real competition between millions of ‘lucky girls’. His shirt was so admired that people in Lahore started wearing similar shirts and some designers wanted to make a deal with Awais to start a shirt designing business.Awais also got a call from a company who wanted to launch a brand with his name. Awais has avoided entering the field of fashion designing because he says he is a designer for himself and believes everyone cannot do everything; fashion designing is a completely different field for him.


This was the time when Awais’ dream of being famous was finally fulfilled. Whenever he used to go out of his home, especially in big cities, people used to rush towards him to have a autograph and picture with him. His page was so famous that it became a match making page, boys knew that there were many girls who were Awais lovely’s fans, and tried to approach them through his page.Many of them made fake profiles by his name, so they could socialize with women.Awais said “ I was a status.MashAllah,many people in this world knew me, they were calling me, taking my interview. Everybody knew my name and tried to use it to impress girls. Because girls were really attracted to me from even before I was famous on youtube.People wanted to use my name” (Naqvi). People from Canada, Australia,Pakistan,Hongkong, Spain,Dubai, Malaysia and France used to call him and encourage him praising his looks and dances. They used to console him whenever Awais used to get a negative response on any video and Awais classifies all of them as his ‘fans’.


Not everybody praised Awais. In fact, people who disliked Awais promoted him more than the people who liked him.Awais classifies them as his ‘haters’ (pronounced as hattars). The haters promoted him so they can make fun of him, however, this helped Awais get more views on his videos along with offensive comments and dislikes.Awais analyzes his haters as coward people, who are scared to confront him. He believes that the reason for such hatred is jealousy which was very common amongst his viewers. People were jealous of his fame,success, talents and looks. They tried their best to let him down. His videos on youtube used to get dislikes and bad comments, however,his fans used to reply back supporting him. Awais used to punish such people by granting them a place in his blocklist. In 2011, Awais used to block approximately twenty above haters daily.His haters responded by making pages against him.One of Awais’ personal favourite page on facebook is ‘ Awais lovely blocked me’.Awais says “I treat these haters like a bucket of water that I have thrown out, while my fans are my ocean.If you remove a bucket of water from the ocean, the ocean remains unaffected” (Naqvi).The worst of his hatters are the ones who used to call him and give him fake job offers. Promise him a role in dance videos and films and invite him to places so they can make fun of him. Call him pretending to be people from the media, take his interview, ask personal questions and then upload the recordings. They spread fake rumours about him which harmed his reputation.Male haters made female facebook accounts to flirt with him;being aware of awais’s loving and romantic nature.They used to say offensive things with the purpose of making him cry.


Awais condemns such people as he believes what they do to be extremely wrong. His message for his haters is that ‘Keep hating,its too worse for you,stay away’.He believes people should not play with someones feelings. Such acts makes the other person loose and makes you harm your own reputation as well.One should not pull other person’s leg but should instead encourage talent.Infact, when asked to compare the atmosphere in Pakistan and abroad he pointed out that the people in Pakistan are victims of jealousy who let other people down,on the other hand, People have many opportunities abroad to do anything they like. He finds Pakistan to be an amazing country which is in need of some little reformations. The most important change is to alter the attitude of people, they should be all open minded. People should let other people live their own life and not be a hurdle to the fulfillment of someones dreams.Once people start caring for others , Pakistani society can be even more representable.


He is very concerned with Pakistans image all over the world. When Awais was in his late teenage years, he was at a food resturant ‘supermax’ ,in Ireland, with his friends. A Irish person from the other table looked at them and said ‘Paki bastards’.Awais was very disturbed as he had Bengali friends with him but they were all abused as Pakistanis. Awais approached the Irish person and discovered that approximately a hundred years ago some Pakistani men came to Ireland, married their women and left them with their childrens alone. Since then Pakistan has been viewed in a bad light.It was then when Awais decided that he will try to improve Pakistans image infront of the world, this is the reason why he added ‘Lovely’ at the end of his name. He wanted to show the world that Pakistani people can also be lovely.Awais has done dance performances in the club in Scotland ,and showed them that Pakistani can perform better than their people. He believes Pakistani’s should leave a mark whereever they go. Awais shoots his videos on the streets of Pakistan with the intention of showing the scenery and developments in Pakistan.


Awais dreams of Pakistan as a well developed country which has openminded people, good institutions, laboratories and medical centres.A place free of terrorism and a place where foreigners would want to come. Being a Gold shop owner, he believes his country is as precious as Gold itself.Many of Awais’s fans had advised him to come to politics but Awais is too busy handling his Gold shop. He believes that he might win as he is really famous, but it is a very big responsibilty for him.He does desire power and money but he is not confident if he can handle a political job.However, he does fulfill his task of being a good citizen. He has many incidents where he has helped old people cross roads and given them a ride to their destination. Awais wants to see smiling faces everywhere around him.


Awais has many hobbies such as video making. He is very fond of dressing and likes designing clothes for himself.Like every male, he has a passion for latest cars and uses them in his videos.He likes socializing and making friends.He is currently not a member of any club, but in his childhood he used to play cricket, snooker and badminton.He has intentions of entering the showbiz in the future as his mother really supports him in whatever he wants to do.He believes Pakistani media is the right place for him, but he has not accepted any offers yet as he is living in Sialkot and he could not leave the place. Travelling is a major problem for him as he owns a Gold shop and being a responsible businessman, he can not leave it alone. Although he left the internet, he has now been convinced that it is time he comes back. He has recently finished his new video in which he is doing a Rap dance.It is on a Punjabi song “ Munday Pat Te” by Hari Singh.


What caused Awais to leave the internet? Awais was deeply hurt due to an incident which made him loose confidence in himself and others. It took him a lot of time to get over the shock of his hacked facebook and youtube profile. It was the source of his fame which was now hacked, and the names of his videos changed. His original youtube channel got deleted and he was left with no proof of his success, no proof that he had millions of likes and followers. He blames the hacker to be a person who was jealous of him and furious of being blocked by him.He suspects a girl who came to his gold shop in Sialkot and tried to be very friendly. When awais was showing her gold chains, she kept her hand under Awais’s hand. She was very good looking and her looks flattered Awais, who was in hunt of an attractive life partner. She took Awais’s number and they made good friends through phone calls. Awais was deeply in love with her and started loving his life even more.One day she called Awais and sounded angry as Awais had blocked her cousin on facebook. Awais tried apologizing but she was very angry. She forced Awais to share his facebook and youtube password with her if he wanted to continue with the relationship.Awais fell for the trick and within fifteen days, he was hacked. Awais was very hurt, he lost his love and his profiles as well. He knew he could never manage to get the same response on his old videos even if he uploaded them again.Worst was that, he knew he could never trust a stranger ever again. He shared this incident so other people learn a lesson from his mistake and never trust a stranger like Awais did.It has been a while now and Awais is trying to recover from the misery. He has uploaded his new video on facebook and the response from the public will decide if his fans remember him or not.

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